Ever since Saturday before last when we all heard Erika Kirk’s amazing words of forgiveness for the man who shot and killed her husband, many of our heads have been spinning with questions and incredulity. How could she forgive him? And why should she even try? If anyone has the right to not forgive, she certainly qualifies. We are in…
WHERE CAN YOU FIND help to restore your marriage? This is a question I’ve been asked many times. The right kind of counselor can certainly help. However, you need to make sure it indeed is the right kind of counselor as I describe in my book, Fighting for Your Marriage while Separated. There are great programs that can help too…
IT’S STRANGE HOW the journey of life moves us through various circumstances so that a story might impact us one way at one point in our life and as we turn a corner, it suddenly meets us once again to impact us in an entirely different way. When I wrote Broken Heart on Hold, I tell the story of walking…
When you don’t feel loving, you never know what might put the love back in your heart . . . and in your marriage. I awoke one morning not feeling very loving toward my husband at all. I was still upset with him because of a conversation we’d had the previous evening. At dinner, I had asked him to help…
WHEN PROBLEMS BEGIN eating away at your marriage, one question that often rises to the surface is whether you might be happier with a divorce. In fact, if crisis erupts, it may be one of the first options that come to mind. But would divorce make you happier? Would it resolve the turmoil and nagging anxiety that keeps you off…
This is Part 3 of a 4 part series on separation. You can read Part 1, and 2 on Heart Talk. The question that hangs in the air after a separation occurs is, “Can separated couples reconcile? Is it really possible? Are there success stories of couples who have done this? And how is bringing about a reconciliation possible…
This is Part 2 of a series on separation. You can read Part 1, “Is There Hope for The Separated Marriage?” on Heart Talk, posted February 25, 2019 Saving a marriage after separation doesn’t begin the way most people think it would. Most believe both husband and wife need to work on it before there’s a chance for reconciliation. But…
“My husband left. He wants a divorce” These familiar and heartbreaking words break my heart each time a person comes to me, describing what is happening in their marriage when their spouse wants out. Their pain and desperation is palpable. I know some hard days lie ahead for them, but I also know there is hope if they can reign…
Recently I sat at a table having dessert with four women who are presently in different stages of transition after marital crisis, some in recovery, others experiencing continued uncertainty and/or upheaval. One of the women whose marriage had made tremendous progress toward healing, began talking about the importance of “letting go,” a subject I also talk about frequently. The young…